Mirror Mirror

Years ago I saw a little sign, you know the kind that looks homemade with the writing that almost looks as if it was written by a child....Anyway, it read: "Mirror mirror on the wall, I'm like my mother after all." Funny and true, even though we don't always care to admit it. I've discovered (sadly) that the flip side of that saying is: "Mirror mirror on the wall, my child's like me after all."
Don't get me wrong, neither of these quotes are necessarily bad, but I have issues which to me seem like MAJOR issues. Needless to say, I don't want my children to have the same struggles and hang ups. But, and yes there is a huge BUT, whether we like it or not, our children do what we do and NOT what we say. (most of the time anyway)
In my Positive Changes post, I mentioned about sarcasm. I have a BIG problem with sarcasm. I am very quick with my sarcastic remarks, all though I think they are funny. For example, some one might say, "we dropped him at the library." (meaning, dropped him off, off course.) But I would instantly jump in saying "Oh, I hope he's ok. Did you drop him very hard?" Ha ha, yes, but the problem is the children have now picked up on this, and they don't know when enough is enough. They do it with me, with dad, with other adults...and maybe I'm old school, but I think it's disrespectful. So, who's to blame? I tell them not to do it. I explain why they shouldn't do it. But then I do it.
Ouch! A friend said to me, "God gives us children to perfect us."
Yeah, I have 6 children, so I guess I have a lot of perfecting to do. Lol.
My point is, it is easy to TELL our children to do or not do something, but our actions contradict our words, and you now the saying "Actions speak louder than words."
So when you see something in your children that annoys you, that REALLY gets under your skin like fingernails on a chalkboard....
Take a long, hard look at yourself.

"Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye." Matthew 7:5 KJV

Positive change

A couple of years ago I read about a US President who made a list of things he wanted to change in his life. I don't remember who it was,where I read it (except that it was on the Internet) or the exact details.
The basic idea, if I remember correctly, is that he made a list of things he wanted to change, and focused on one thing for a week. I think he added one more thing each week. So, week 1 eg: no eating after 7pm. Week 2 : No eating after 7pm, go to bed by 9pm. Week 3: No eating after 7pm, go to bed by 9pm, get up at 5am. You get the idea.
Well, whether this is completely accurate, I don't know, but this idea is stuck in my head and I'm going to try it. So I am posting my "Positive changes" and would like you to join me. Post your own list in the comment section and we can support and encourage each other.
I'm going to start with 5 things, then I'll make a new list if and when I've achieved the goals on the first one.

My list:
1) No yelling/shouting (except in an emergency, real emergency)
2) No sarcasm. (I am really good at this(I'll post something about that at some point), and the kids are picking up on it as well. So this has to go.)
3) No name calling (even jokingly)
4)No eating after 8pm :-)
5) Make my bed when I get up (honestly, this is a challenge with 6 children in the house. I often only do it at around lunch time.)

When I was your age...

Do you remember growing up and your parent's saying: "When I was your age..." Some days I can't help but smile when I catch myself saying: "When we were growing up things were very different than now." "When I was your age, I would never dream of doing what you just did." The truth is, things WERE different, they ARE different, and they should be. The world is changing. People change. Technology is advancing. My 5 yr old seems to know more about my smart phone than I do! The first time I used a PC was when I was 12. And it was to play Tetris on a Doss system. How ever, when I was 5, 9, 12 yrs old, I was out in the field, playing among the Bloekom trees (Eucalyptus trees), building huts, going for an all day bike ride with my brother. It was safe. Now, our children now about Smart phones and tablets and IPhones, Photo shop and Power point. They don't know what is to be out in nature all day, playing in the rain and feeling the wind and sun on your face, coming home with sunburn after being at the town swimming pool all day...It makes me think, next time I will say: "When I was your age, I was free to be a child."

Work

I've been at home with our children for 14 yrs. The last time I had a paid job was in 2000. I have wanted to get a work from home job for a long time, to be able to earn some money. Recently I had the opportunity to work outside the home, nice office job,training provided, lovely boss. ...(my husband). But I had to leave the children. Suddenly I realized what I had to give up to have my "dream". And I simply don't have it in me to do that. I am happy to be at home and help with the business doing filing and invoicing from home where I can still listen to the laughter and arguments of the children. I commend those moms who have to go to work and leave their children evety day. You are very brave.